The goal of counseling for Christians is that it is our job to teach and admonish each other. We should be communicating truth, correcting error and confronting wrong doing. That is good for all of us, all of the time and in all relationships. We are to teach and help each other.
“Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom…” (Colossians 3:16 ESV)
“11 And he gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the shepherds and teachers, 12 to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ,” (Ephesians 4:11-12 ESV)
The reason for Biblical counseling is that God is sufficient. His word is sufficient. His word deals with our heart. 2 Corinthians chapter 3 teaches that we are not sufficient in ourselves, but our sufficiency comes from God who made us. In verse 5 Paul is telling us that his sufficiency is from God, not from himself. Our sufficiency is by God’s grace. We are being transformed by the Lord. Who we are at the heart and how we behave are evidence of God.
We must ask, “Do I live for God or do I behave as if He lives for me?” Sometimes I catch myself having a genie in a bottle attitude. I realize that I am looking to counsel or receive counseling to help remove pain or trials. But what if He is allowing the trials? If I am making the end of suffering my goal and not willing to be godly in my suffering, then that goal is my idol, putting my comfort before what God might want me to experience. God says that He will not be put second.
“You shall have no other gods before me.” (Deuteronomy 5:7 ESV)
Counseling should lead us to living for God. We should desire to be God’s kind of person even in the midst of trials. The Bible gives us a description of what God’s kind of person does and does not do.
A blessed man (God’s kind of person) does not surround himself with or take counsel from unbelievers.
Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers (Psalms1:1 ESV)
The ‘wicked’ refers to anything not biblical. Secular counseling, that has nothing to do with God or His word, is unstable, incomplete & always changing.
“The wicked… are like chaff that the wind drives away” (Psalm 1:4 ESV).
A blessed man does surround himself with and take counsel from the Lord.
“but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. 3 He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers.” (Psalm 1:2-3 ESV)
The goal of Biblical counseling is nothing less than helping one to be God’s kind of person in all circumstances. Anything less leaves us tossed by the wind like chaff or on the waves of the ocean, ever-changing in its ways – indecisive.